RELATIONSHIPS
Written By:
Kiehl Newsome
Lust Editor in Chief
For years people have debated and speculated on what they believe is the reason men cheat, some have been true and some I think are not as accurate. Most of the articles were written by women, and no offense to women but I think men would know best why MEN cheat.
When I was choosing what article to post first, 98% of women I asked wanted to see this article first. Males picked this topic only 2% of their votes. Reason for that is I believe most men already know the top reasons to cheat. So this article will be something of interest to both men and women.
I’m going to discuss the top 4 reasons men drift away and some things women can do to prevent them.
4. Opportunity
Sadly enough as men, we get nowhere near as much attention from opposite sex as women. Women are offered sex every day in well hidden ways, just have to be perceptive. When a guy lets you cut in line and you happen to be a cute big breasted girl with her thong showing, that’s an offer of sex. In our mind we are hoping it sparks a conversation, exchange of numbers, a date, and then sex. But it typically doesn’t work that way for us though.
Hence, when in a relationship and shown interest by another female that we have not initiated, it intrigues us. It takes personal will (especially if the girl is attractive) for us to not indulge.
Prevention:
Women, there is actually not much you can do to prevent opportunity. That is completely out of your hands; best thing you can do is make your man feel special and needed so when an opportunity presents itself he thinks to himself that he already has a good thing.
3. Attention/Affection
This is one I did not see anyone bring up and I think is an important motive. I don’t think there is anyone who does not like positive attention by the opposite sex, makes you feel wanted and boosts your self esteem. And it has been reported that your body produces more pheromones when you have an attraction to a person, which creates an intoxicating like feeling. Girls at this stage often show the man what I like to call their “representative”, both guys and girls show this, usually at first stages of dating. “Representatives” display only their best qualities, and are extremely nice and seem to say the right thing. They don’t mind the guy hanging out late, or drinking on the weekends or just seeing him every so often. Guys love to have freedom, and girls who give that are treasured. If this type of attention is not present in your relationship or has severely decreased, this can remind the guy how great things were when you first started talking. He could then be likely to explore options with the female in efforts to re-establish those feelings.
Prevention:
Best way to prevent this situation is to make sure you give him a good amount of attention without going overboard, brief flashes on the regular basis is best. Remember when you first started dating and you text each other for hours until you fell asleep then first thing in the morning? Do those things; send him random sexy messages now and then, which can go a long way.
2. Lack of Sexual Acts
I say sexual acts because it may not always be intercourse, oral sex, or foreplay would be covered by this. A lot of relationships start off with the couple having a significant amount of sex then as time goes on it starts to deteriate. Now it’s understandable that certain things can arise or take place over that time that may cause this. But when it comes to the point when the man asks the women for certain pleasures, and the first thing the woman does is roll her eyes or go “Ugh”…..There’s a problem. Lack of these particular favors could make him roam.
Prevention:
Each women knows what her man likes, you know if your man craves either blowjobs, spontaneous sex, or kinky sex acts. And remember this, whatever you won’t do the next girl will. Don’t make it easy for her by depriving your man what he likes best, because at some point that other girl will here bout the problems between you guys and what you don’t do and she will do it religiously. Whatever you did that he loved when relationship first started, keep doing it. Don’t make him feel like sex with you is chore you want to hurry up and cross off your list.
1. Falling Out of Love
This one would be the hardest for women to deal with, but sometimes when a guy falls out of love with you he can find it difficult to tell you and may stay in the relationship. This can usually cause big arguments over little things, or him making you feel like you’re not an important piece in his life. He may not pay much attention to you anymore, give short answers to your questions, stop going out with you, and hang out later than normal. There are other signs also, usually the ones girls pick up on, such as: being secretive while texting, smelling like woman’s perfume, or lipstick on collar. At this point in the relationship, he feels like he is free to do what he wants and may or may not care if he gets caught cheating. If you were to find out, it would give him the opening he wanted but could not just tell you.
Prevention:
You have to be able to recognize subtle changes as well as you do the drastic ones, when little things here and there change constantly this could be the cause. Once it gets bad enough, best thing to do is to try and make him talk about it. Try not to seem like your nagging him or yelling at him, seem concerned, the other moods may make him not want to conversate. If you find out in enough time you can save yourself a lot of grief that would be caused later on.
Overview
If most of the insight I have provided is considered and followed, for the most part you will have a satisfied man. More often than not, satisfied men don’t wonder off. I say more often, because there are those who make you scratch your head saying “why the hell would he do that?” because they seem to get what they need/want. Those are the select few that just want variety; there is no curving that, he has to want to change that. Try to keep the relationship exciting, surprise with: sex, backrubs, home cooked meal (for those who can cook, if you can’t, order take out!) or even watch a few of his favorite sports with him. Guys love girls who are into sports. Now this advice can be used for us too fellas, if you want to keep your woman happy it takes more than just good sex (at least most, lol). If you feel like I sold us males out, don’t, I will be giving objective advice to both sexes. The next article will be for the single men, I will show you how to create a bachelor type lifestyle. I will explain in the way a GM would build his baseball team, article will be titled “Singles – The Offseason”. I will show you how to build a winning social franchise and turn it into a dynasty, while of course having a blast doing it.
For advice, Q&A, tips, suggestions and/or comments please email lustmag@yahoo.com. Please subject email as ATTN: Relationships; also include your first name and location. I will get back to everyone as soon as I can, and some people’s questions will be published.
Thanks,
Kiehl Newsome
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